tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4793956811762673430.post2927916664123316175..comments2023-04-04T07:45:48.464-04:00Comments on Childfree Christian: The Lies We Tell OurselvesI.am.freehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17438197637317848926noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4793956811762673430.post-2486058921873981162010-08-02T10:29:25.667-04:002010-08-02T10:29:25.667-04:00@Angie, thanks for the comment. I don't think...@Angie, thanks for the comment. I don't think the "it's all worth it" phrase used to bother me until I had heard it in the "bitch and backpedal" context for about the 1,789th time. Then it just started to annoy me to the point it has become a pet peeve, even when used out of that context.<br /><br />It's funny that you should bring that up, because I was already working on a follow-up post about why "it's all worth it" should go without saying, haha. I'll be very interested in hearing your thoughts on that next post. :)<br /><br />@Laura, I agree 100% with your distinction between overindulgent parenting and "good" (?) parenting (for lack of a better term). I have many friends who are parents and who have <b>never</b> given me the it's-all-worth-it speech, and I think that is due in part to what you described.<br /><br />I also know and love several parents who are very pragmatic about parenthood. They will tell me things like, "My daughter is a handful!" Full stop. No excuses or disclaimers afterward. And they don't <b>have</b> to follow it up with "but it's all worth it" because the <b>evidence</b> is in their relationship with their kids.<br /><br />You sound like one of those parents that I love and admire. :)I.am.freehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08471958566515922377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4793956811762673430.post-35244721590953528022010-08-02T00:16:53.793-04:002010-08-02T00:16:53.793-04:00I cannot help but wonder, if the "bitch and b...I cannot help but wonder, if the "bitch and backpedal" has more to do with our child centric society, and less to do with parenting in general. In our society parents tend to raise children who think the world revolves around them. Parents continue to reinforce this idea within their households by involving their children in every sport/activity known to mankind and buying them every new gadget every other household has. I don't know if it's because I was raised by parents who had next to nothing, or because I was married for 10 years before children (thus firmly establishing the relationship between my husband and myself), but I think it's absolutely ridiculous to shape your entire lives around your kids. Don't get me wrong, I deeply love my children (and would die for them if I had to without hesitation) but nobody's going to be happy if my husband and I put them at the center of our universe. I think that's where a lot of the "bitch and backpedal" stems from--I don't think it's all parenting, just overindulgent parenting.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04102386831601533628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4793956811762673430.post-66973004590470801362010-08-01T14:53:07.792-04:002010-08-01T14:53:07.792-04:00Great blog post! Personally, the whole "it&#...Great blog post! Personally, the whole "it's all worth it" saying never really bothered me. I say it all the time in conjunction with schoolwork among other things. When something is so important to you, even when it's hard, it is worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com