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After banging my head in frustration over the obsession everyone around me had with procreation, I went online to find a community of people who were more like me. I have met some fascinating people along the way, but I have also found that many in the childfree community are quite hostile toward Christianity and a Christian world view. I understand that, unfortunately, many of my Christian sisters and brothers have given them a lot of ammunition (undoubtedly, I have been guilty of this at times too). Not wanting to be perceived as "trolling" for expressing my Christian perspective on other people's forums and blogs, I use my own blog to share my musings on childfree life while at the same time expressing my faith.

My intention is to show support to childfree people, both Christian and non-Christian, but from my own Christian perspective. Questions and constructive comments are welcome; negativity and intolerance are not.

Saturday, May 1, 2010

My Condolences

My cousin just announced a pregnancy. While the rest of my family gushed with congratulations and other words of excitement, I could not be less enthusiastic.

Because she has been married for several years now and I had never heard any talk of children, I suppose I was holding out a little hope that she and her husband were childfree. Because she is an avid runner (I think she has averaged something like 1-2 marathons a year for the past 10 years), I suppose I am worried that she will trade in her running shorts for a pair of "mom jeans." Because she has always been so interesting to me, I suppose I am concerned that her facebook updates will become as monotonous and mommy-centered as her sister's have (yeah, I had to hide her sister on my newsfeed because I couldn't take it anymore). I don't want to see my cousin go from "cool" to "mom."

In fact, all I wanted to say to her was, "My condolences!"

But I realize that some of those condolences are for me... and for the 140,000,000 orphans out there. Perhaps I should sponsor another child so that I can pick up my cousin's slack.


  1. I understand how you feel...
    But there may be hope... most of the women runners I know can't get back in their running shoes fast enough after a pregnancy, I hope it will be the case with your cousin too!

  2. Here's hoping that after baby your cousin will still consider herself a woman (or person) first, and mom second (or for her husband's sake, wife second and mom third!).

    I find it so annoying when a woman has a baby and all of a sudden it's ALL about the baby and her husband is almost entirely neglected. Hello!? Did you forget about your supposed "life partner" over there? You know, that guy who if not for him you wouldn't even HAVE your little precious bundle of joy?? It really makes me understand why so many men are freaked at the prospect of their wives getting pregnant.

    Anyhoo, I'm sending good thoughts your way that your cousin doesn't morph... :)

  3. Thank you for your encouragement. :)

  4. Oh my gosh, I LOVE it! Whenever I hear that people are pregnant, the first thing I think is, "Oh gosh, I'm so sorry!" Of course I don't say that out loud though....