About this Blog

After banging my head in frustration over the obsession everyone around me had with procreation, I went online to find a community of people who were more like me. I have met some fascinating people along the way, but I have also found that many in the childfree community are quite hostile toward Christianity and a Christian world view. I understand that, unfortunately, many of my Christian sisters and brothers have given them a lot of ammunition (undoubtedly, I have been guilty of this at times too). Not wanting to be perceived as "trolling" for expressing my Christian perspective on other people's forums and blogs, I use my own blog to share my musings on childfree life while at the same time expressing my faith.

My intention is to show support to childfree people, both Christian and non-Christian, but from my own Christian perspective. Questions and constructive comments are welcome; negativity and intolerance are not.

Friday, June 29, 2012


Often, but especially over the past few days, I have felt the weight of the world on my shoulders.  It tends to be not because my life is bad – indeed, I feel I have been blessed beyond measure – but the turmoil and suffering of the world around me weighs heavily upon me.  Sometimes it is guilt that I am flitting about my comfortable life while others do not have that luxury (not that I don’t have problems, but they often seem so small in the face of issues like famine, unemployment, terminal illnesses, etc.), sometimes it is plain and simple empathy, or sometimes it is a feeling of helplessness that nothing I can do will make a dent in the strife… it’s just a drop of freshwater in the ocean.  And certainly there is the frightening realization that it is only a matter of time before the badness I see around me hits closer to home.

As my heart ached, I considered that I cannot possibly be the only one despairing over these things, and I wondered how I might share some comfort with anyone else who feels the way I do.  Certainly, we childfree can take some comfort in the fact that we are not forcing another person into such an existence (“better…is he who has not yet been and has not seen the evil deeds that are done under the sun.” Ecc. 4:3). But beyond that, we are offered a little hope for ourselves – not that things will get better here, but that there is something more powerful than this world:  “In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)

Take heart.

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Peace and Quiet

As an introvert, I have a natural bias toward peace and quiet, unlike some of my friends who thrive in loud, chaotic households.  In fact, my ability to maintain a quiet home is something I consider a fringe benefit of being childfree -- and reinforcement for why I would not and should not change my mind.

So, reading Ecclesiastes 4:6 tickled me as I considered how perfectly it reflected my view of family life: “Better is a handful of quietness than two hands full of toil and a striving after wind.”  Kids certainly seem like two hands full of toil to me!