About this Blog

After banging my head in frustration over the obsession everyone around me had with procreation, I went online to find a community of people who were more like me. I have met some fascinating people along the way, but I have also found that many in the childfree community are quite hostile toward Christianity and a Christian world view. I understand that, unfortunately, many of my Christian sisters and brothers have given them a lot of ammunition (undoubtedly, I have been guilty of this at times too). Not wanting to be perceived as "trolling" for expressing my Christian perspective on other people's forums and blogs, I use my own blog to share my musings on childfree life while at the same time expressing my faith.

My intention is to show support to childfree people, both Christian and non-Christian, but from my own Christian perspective. Questions and constructive comments are welcome; negativity and intolerance are not.

Sunday, August 11, 2013

On the Upswing

Near the end of The Magician's Nephew, C.S. Lewis wrote, "When things go wrong, you'll find they usually go on getting worse for some time; but when things once start going right they often go on getting better and better."  This seems to sum up the past several months for my husband and me!

I hesitate to divulge too much about our situation lest I "out" myself, but suffice it to say that months dragged on in a downward spiral, but by the grace of God and the help of some amazing doctors, suddenly things began to improve.  I am sure I will never understand why God allows life-threatening illness in the first place, but he has definitely shown us great compassion throughout the ordeal.

And throughout this time, we have had several people finally acknowledge what a blessing it is for us to not have children... "My gosh, you must be especially glad right now that you don't have kids," or "It must be a relief that you don't also have children to worry about."  Yes, yes it is.  This may also influenced by the fact that, while there is no clear evidence that the issue we face is hereditary in our case, this condition tends to run in families.  When I consider that we could have condemned another person to suffer what we have been through, I am grateful that I will never have to carry that burden of guilt.

For now, we continue to enjoy things going right and getting better and better.

Saturday, January 12, 2013

Thankfulness Continued

I have said (in some form or another) on many occasions in the blog that I believe God intended for me to not have children, and I find it a blessing, something for which I am abundantly grateful.

It's been a couple of months since my last post, and part of the reason for that (aside from sometimes simply running out of things to say!) is that some of the health issues that were going on back then in our household have escalated in unexpected ways.

As we have been facing doctors offices and hospitals, tests, medical bills, and the stress over health and finances, hardly a day has gone by when I haven't breathed a prayer of gratitude for being childfree.  There have been a few days when I felt pushed to the edge of my sanity, and I thought, "How would I have possibly been able to handle this if I also had children to look after?!"  Perhaps that makes me weaker than those who have to care for children while enduring similar trials, but I do believe that God knows my weaknesses and has spared me from an added emotional and financial burden that might have crushed me.

Life has fundamentally changed for us, and I expect that things are going to get worse before they get better, but we do find some comfort in the ways God has been demonstrating his care and faithfulness.

I am also grateful for those of you with whom I have had the pleasure of interacting on this blog.  Even though most of us don't actually know each other, I am touched by your stories, struggles, and words of encouragement, and I do pray for you folks.  Whenever God might bring us to your mind, I would be thankful for your prayers too.